When Did Being Average Become So Bad?
noun : a level that is typical of a group, class, or series : a middle point between extremes
I’ve encountered a lot of women who have an issue with being “average”; and by average I’m using the meaning provided by Webster’s Dictionary. If you are typical of a group, or in the middle of two extremes, then that means you’re normal! Congratulations!
I enjoy celebrating, honouring, and acknowledging those who are above average, those who have followed their passion and accomplished some pretty awesome results. I love award ceremonies because I believe that people should be recognized for not being average, however, if you are one of those people who are average, don’t be offended or discouraged: there is nothing wrong with being average.
Being average is perfectly fine if that is where you are comfortable being in your life. Being average is only a problem if that is not what you were designed to be. There are people who have amazing gifts, talents, and very specific callings on their lives. These people will not be happy, joy-filled or content in life if they end up living the average life. People who are filled with passion are never ordinary people. To be passionate is to be filled with an “intense, driving, or overmastering feeling or conviction”; there is nothing average about the emotions involved in passion.
Personally I don’t believe that Christians are called to be average in terms of how we build our character. St. Paul and the various examples that Jesus has provided for us display a spiritual life that does not lead to ordinary thinking or living. Christians are different from the mainstream culture and are therefore not average in the way they think or live.
My belief that it is alright for people to be average and live their lives as such, is in regards to the sometimes unconscious things we compete with each other about. There are Pinterest Mommies, who not only pin 500 pictures and articles, but they somehow find the time to bring those pins to life in their homes, churches, and schools. There are the Blogger Moms who have more than 24 hours in a day and are able to post long blog articles everyday along with posting beautiful pictures that capture their every move as they bake homemade gluten-free pies; sew their hand-made organic children’s clothing for their 5 home schooled children, and renovate their bathroom; all in one day!
I’m happy for these women and their children who are unbelievably lucky, but when it comes to domestic skills, I will be more than happy to let the family laundry pile up for an entire week, bring fresh bakery bought cupcakes to my children’s school and purchase their clothes from a children’s clothing chain. Friday evenings will be hosted by whatever pizza delivery franchise can feed my family for under $40.00. Yes, folks, these are the dreams and visions I have for my future family, why? Because I am comfortable with having an average domestic life.I am by no means an average person, it is both a blessing and a curse, and I’m cool with this.
The average and the not-so-average share this same planet, and that means there is something for each and every one of us to contribute to this world, even if it’s average, your life still has meaning and purpose. Be proud of your average accomplishments!
Books for Averages:
One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are by Ann Voskamp
7: An Experimental Mutiny Against Excess by Jen Hatmaker
Million Little Ways, A: Uncover the Art You Were Made to Live by Emily P. Freeman
Grace for the Good Girl: Letting Go of the Try-Hard Life by Emily P. Freeman
Let. It. Go.: How to Stop Running the Show and Start Walking in Faith by Karen Ehman
Books for not-so Average:
In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day: How to Survive and Thrive When Opportunity Roars by Mark Batterson “Your greatest regret at the end of your life will be the lions you didn’t chase.”
You’re Made for a God-Sized Dream: Opening the Door to All God Has for You by Holley Gerth “We all long to live with more purpose, passion, and joy.”
Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead by Sheryl Sandberg “… encouraged women to “sit at the table,” seek challenges, take risks, and pursue their goals with gusto.”
Successful Women Think Differently: 9 Habits to Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Resilient by Valorie Burton “…successful women think differently. They make decisions differently. They set goals differently and bounce back from failure differently.”