Decisions, Decisions, Decisions…
I’ve been aiming to become a minimalist for a few years and I have yet to get it right. I place too much value on the things I have and anxiety keeps me from throwing unnecessary items in the garbage (or not bringing them into the house in the first place).
In my mind I keep telling myself I need a trip to IKEA with a $4,000 budget and I’ll finally be a minimalist. I’ve convinced myself that I can’t possibly be a minimalist with out “minimalist” style furnishings. The truth is, I might actually be desiring large “minimalist” storage oriented furniture so I can hide all my clutter and not think about it.
After much failed attempts at minimalism I realized I actually like having lots of stuff; what I don’t like is having large amounts of clutter.
I want to have 30 pairs of foot ware, but I don’t want all 30 of them at the front door.
I want to have 10 pairs of jeans, 40 shirts, and 90 pairs of dress pants to choose from; what I don’t want is laundry.
I’ve been going about minimalism all wrong, because my core issue wasn’t about how much belongings I had or any emotional attachments to what I did own. My actual core issue was learning how to organize what I had. I do have to work hard at decluttering on a regular basis, but organization, not minimalism is what I have to focus on.
I have a feeling this might be why some people have been failing at minimalism.
Making Changes: Things to Think About
When you decide to make changes in your life, it’s good to ask yourself some questions before moving forward:
-What is it you actually want to change? Name it.
-Why do you want to make these changes?
-What is happening in your life that has led to you wanting to make changes?
-Acknowledge any negative feelings you have about what you are hoping to change.
-Remember, change is step-by-step and is never instant.
-You’re not changing your entire life, you are changing something about your life. Change isn’t always meant to be an overhaul. Sometimes change is simple, yet effective.
-You’re not only changing your mindset, you are changing your behaviour. There is a difference, but sometimes it’s not easy for us to differentiate between the two.