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The Blessing of ADHD: Turn it around!

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One Word: Blessing

The Blessings That Comes With Having ADHD

For those who have ADHD you might be wondering what exactly could be a blessing of having ADHD? There doesn’t seem to be any blessing in the list of traits describing ADHD: constantly late, disorganized, forgetful, impatience, trouble concentrating, easily distracted, zoning out and a host of other negatives symptoms that make it difficult to navigate the world of work and personal relationships.

None of the traits of ADHD resemble the Fruits of the Spirit, Corinthians 13, or any of the other teachings by St. Paul on how to be a good Christian. Knowing this, how does one find blessings in having ADHD?

I have ADHD and I have it bad! At various times in my life this disorder has turned me into a hot mess! I haven’t mastered this disorder, and it is an ongoing process to make effective changes, but I strongly believe that if I stay positive and focus on the blessings, then I will be able to succeed in life. I believe this applies to others with ADHD as well. I’ll share with you a few of the negative traits of ADHD that can be reframed when we make the choice to engage in the process of turning these negatives into positives and bring healing into our lives.

If we believe that Jesus was able to: make a blind man see, mentally free a demon possessed person, stop the flow of a hemorrhaging woman, and bring a deceased loved one back to life; then I believe that God is able to help those of us with ADHD bring healing to our lives while we manage the symptoms of this disorder.

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SHAME

Turn It Around With These Blessings:

-Know that God loves you and you are worthy of this because He has said so. Give Him praise everyday for His love.

-Don’t be afraid or a shamed to let others know that you have Adult ADHD. It’s not some sort of non-treatable contagious disease that people need to fear.

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MOODINESS

Turn It Around With These Blessings:

-Become aware of your emotions and how you are feeling. Check- in with yourself throughout the day so you can recognise when you are steering towards disorganization and other frustrations.

– Be vulnerable and brave enough to apologise to others when your ADHD traits have caused you to hurt others. Be gentle towards yourself and practice self-forgiveness; release unhealthy guilt.

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STRAINED RELATIONSHIPS

Turn It Around With These Blessings:

-Spend your time with people who understand the challenges of ADHD. If there are people who are judgemental towards your disorder, unforgiving, or harsh with you; remove them from your life or decrease the amount of time you spend with them.

-Be conscious of the traits that are causing fractures within your family. Be willing to admit where you are struggling and work together with family members to deal with troublesome issues.

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POOR PERFORMANCE AT WORK AND PLACE OF EMPLOYMENT

Turn It Around With These Blessings:

-Find employment that can accommodate your symptoms.  The goal is to recognise what would make the workplace more suitable for you without it compromising your ability to fulfill your duties.

-Discover your gifts. God has gifted you alongside having this deficit. ADHD is not an absence of gifts, skills, abilities and talents. The challenge is to discover these and make them work for you and your employer without the ADHD traits getting in the way.

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PASSION

Turn It Around With These Blessings:

-Use your ADHD fueled passion to make somewhere in this world a better place to be. Use it to bring happiness, justice, efficiency and joy to the lives of others and yourself.

-Learn to accept that passion filled persons with ADHD are visionaries who see the world in pictures. Be gentle and understanding towards those who can’t see past two feet in front of them. They aren’t visionaries and that is alright; it’s your job and gift to be the visionary. Leave it to them to the manage the details.

 

Prayer for those with ADHD who just need to stop, pause and pray! 

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The Blessing of Self-Discipline

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The Blessing of Discipline

I’ve enjoyed incorporating the One Word 365 philosophy into my daily life. There hasn’t been a day where I haven’t stopped and considered the word and experience of Blessing (my chosen One Word for 2014).

God's blessing brings goodness to your life, not trouble
God’s blessing brings goodness to your life, not trouble

This week an area where blessing has resonated with me is: Discipline. Throughout my life I haven’t always been a well disciplined person, however, once I entered my mid-thirties, discipline was no longer a choice for me, it became a requirement. Having ADHD resulted in a life of disorganization, confusion, distraction and running around in circles. My life was filled with starts and stops along with many unfinished tasks and uncommitted responsibilities. Thankfully, in my later thirties I learned through the help of an ADHD Academic Strategist many helpful techniques for managing various areas of my life. For any adult with ADHD, I highly recommend investing in an A.D.D. Coach. A.D.D. cannot be “cured” because it is not a disease, but it can definitely be managed.

This is NOT discipline!
This is NOT discipline!

I can’t think of too many people who enjoy discipline or having to get into the habit of developing new disciplines. I wish I could say it is easy work, but it isn’t. I’ve come to accept that discipline must be a part of my everyday life in order to function. I now consider discipline a blessing.

In Judaism, a blessing involves the drawing down of spiritual energy from God. The purpose of “Berakhot” is to acknowledge God as the source of all blessing and to turn everyday experiences into religious experiences and as a result increase awareness of God. In becoming a disciplined person I see and experience God’s blessing “Berakhah”, a gift from God. It would be difficult to live God’s calling on our lives if we do not have discipline. One could not become a doctor without daily study, an athlete without daily exercise, or a musician without daily practice. I cannot become the best “me” without the gift of discipline and “you” cannot become the best you without this gift either.

Discipline creates strength
Discipline creates strength

Discipline as a blessing produces the following in your life:

  • Self control
  • Perseverance
  • Ability to prioritize your life
  • Becoming a man/woman of your word (you do what you say you will)
  • The reward of having completed something (fulfillment of dreams and goals)
  • Development of your God given skills and talents
  • Time to enjoy doing things you enjoy
  • Overcoming habits that are of no benefit to you
  • Being able to continue working on something long after the initial excitement has ceased
  • Increased boundaries
  • Growing closer to God as you draw on His strength while you go about your daily responsibilities

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May your discipline be a blessing in your life!

Question:

Think of areas in your life where you see discipline as a blessing. Praise God for these disciplines and what it has produced!

Application:

Pray and ask God to reveal areas in your life where you lack discipline; ask Him for help in making changes.