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God’s Will and Your Waistline

“… in general, it is God’s will that we ourselves should have a great part in determining our path through life. This does not mean that he is not with us. Far from it. God both develops and, for our good, tests our character by leaving us to decide. … God is preparing us for a life of initiative, so I know that God will be with me even when he does not tell me what to do. His presence is known in ways different from his specifying what he wants done.”  Dallas Willard, Hearing God.

I recently encountered someone who felt the need to determine God’s will regarding her health. This person was obese, had gained a considerable amount of weight in a short amount of time, needed a sleep apnea machine due to effects of her weight, and could barely walk a short distance without huffing and puffing. As I listened to this person speak, I wondered exactly what she thought God might say to her, “My dear child, remain intentionally unhealthy, it is my will for you that you not be able to breathe at night. It is my will that you eat your feelings instead of turning to me, your comforter.

When is it ever God’s will for us to self-harm? The answer is never. It hurts God to see us hurting. His love cannot stand to see his beautiful creation living with emotional pain.

I don’t believe God created us to be empty headed believers, lacking the ability to make sensible decisions. People tend to seek “God’s will” despite knowing what the sensible answer to their dilemma would be. Instead of seeking “God’s will”, I wish people would be more honest and admit that what they are actually seeking is God’s guidance and a sense of personal peace.

We are sometimes so desperate to have God approve decisions which we know are not good for us. We stall by engaging in what I refer to as spiritual procrastination. Spiritual procrastination involves engaging in honest spiritual disciplines without the right intentions. We pray knowing that we are asking for something that is against the will of God; we seek the advice of fellow Christians whom we know are not in a right relationship with God and who are likely to give us the answer we want; we start reading scripture with the hopes that after thousands of years, God’s commandments might have some how changed over night in favour of our dilemma; and we start quoting guilt scriptures such as, “thou shalt not judge”, “ye without sin cast the first stone.”

I didn’t want to be hard on the person seeking God’s will for her waistline. Sometimes we are not ready to hear or face the truth about our situations and how we got there. If I could say anything to her, I would say, it is never God’s will for us to harm ourselves. Seek God’s guidance on how to best care for one’s self. He will place people in your path to provide encouragement, guidance, and solid information. If you want to talk about God’s will for our lives, it is always God’s will that we listen to the messengers He sends us.

Questions and Reflections:

-What do you think God’s will is for yourself specifically and for all of humankind?

-When was the last time you sought “God’s Will”? What were you hoping to hear from God?





The Blessing of: “See I Told You So!”

The Blessing of: “I Told You So!”

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One Word for 2014: Blessing

Isn’t it annoying sometimes when someone told you something and you decide not to listen and eventually you have to face the sting from the words, “See, I told you so!” or my mother’s favourite, “Didn’t I Tell You…!”


I used to become angry with myself when I didn’t listen to someone and whatever they warned me about was proven to be true. As I would mull over my error, it often lead to me becoming upset with the person who gave me the warning. Over the years I’ve learned to see people who give me words of warning and caution as a blessing instead of seeing their words as hurtful.

Please Note: I don’t recommend literally saying, “I told you so!” to anyone because it will likely lead to that person feeling worse and becoming bitter. However, if someone says that you, don’t become fixated on the words of defeat as it will take you away from learning a lesson and instead it will lead to you being upset with yourself without having learned from your mistake.

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Proverbs 27:5-6 “Better is open rebuke than hidden loveWounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!”

We’ve all been in a situation where we’ve kicked our self for not listening to sound advice and warnings. We feel even worse when we don’t listen to our own advice or follow our intuition. It’s easy to beat up on our self for not listening, but instead of doing that, what if we stopped, evaluated why we didn’t listen and then gave thanks to God for the people in our lives who are not afraid to “tell us so!”.

Friends who give us sound advice and warnings are good friends. It means they care enough to look out for your well-being. I’m not talking about bossy people or busy-bodies who have their noses in everybody’s business. I’m referring to those who “tell you so!” because they care. They might not even be friend or family; sometimes these people are strangers who care enough to let you know whatever it is that you need to be told.

An honest friend is a great friend to have.

So… what have I been told in the past few months that I didn’t listen to? Here’s my list:

-“It’s gross, don’t buy it

-“You’re sick, don’t go to work, stay home and rest

-“Ignore her

-“You’re going to forget if you don’t write that down

-“If you don’t say something about it, she’s going to keep doing that to you

Thankfully my list doesn’t include anything life altering, but for other’s you may not be so fortunate.

QUESTION (Self-Reflection):

  • What are the major “I Told You So” in your life? Is there something that people are often telling you, but you don’t seem to listen to?
  • How do you feel when people have proven you wrong? How do you react towards them?


  • Ask God to reveal to you any areas in your life where you have a difficult time listening and following sound advice and warnings.
  • If you have trouble with being proven wrong, ask God to soften your heart towards people who are showing you that they care. Ask God to help you discern between those who are simply being bossy or prideful verses those who are demonstrating care.
Source: r3ally