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Fat Shaming: Not My Problem, Not Yours Either

fat shaming meal

This week my fellow Canadian Nicole Arbour, started a YouTube fight with all the fat people in the world. I guess that includes me! She made women, and probably some men, really angry. She was labelled a Fat Shamer.

If you don’t know what “Fat Shaming” is, here’s a definition from PsychologyToday.com, where they define it as, “An act of bullying, singling out, discriminating, or making fun of a fat person. The shaming may be performed under the guise of helping the person who is overweight/obese realize they need to lose weight or they will die, become ill, and/or never succeed in life or relationships. Fat shaming is an individual bias against people who are considered unattractive, stupid, lazy, or lacking self-control.”

Well, if that’s the definition, then I’ve certainly been fat shamed my entire life, except for the few short years I maintained a healthy weight and of course during that time many people thought I had an eating disorder, was on drugs, or perpetually dieting. None of their assumptions and concerns had any truth to it.

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Dear fellow overweight and obese persons, this world is full of a lot of mean and cruel people. If mean people aren’t shaming you for one thing, they’ll shame you for another. Are you short, skinny, red haired, blonde, White, Black, Asian? Are you a human being? Then guess what, someone at some point in your life will shame you for something.

Is shaming ever alright? No.

Shame: “A painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety; b) the susceptibility to such emotion”(Webster’s Dictionary).

shame Brene Brown

I don’t give into so-called fat shaming because 1) I know I’m fat. No one is telling me something I don’t already know; 2) I and only I am to blame for having become obese many different times in my life; 3) I’m the only one who keeps me overweight; 4) If I have a problem with being fat, then I am responsible for doing something about it in a healthy way.

It’s important to learn how to process and manage our emotions. Whether or not you give into fat shaming depends on you and how you handle uncomfortable emotions. You could lose 10 or 100 pounds, but that won’t change how you deal with guilt, blame, bullying, discrimination, or any other negative behaviour society’s meanies throw at you.

Regardless of what you weigh and the percentage of body fat you carry on your body, it’s important to know your identity in Christ.

Colossians 3: 1-2 “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.

Maintaining a healthy body fat percentage is important, but it doesn’t define who you are as a person. God doesn’t want our body shape and weight to determine our value on this earth.

It’s also important to realize that not everyone who is concerned about your weight is fat shaming you. If someone’s weight becomes an issue of life or death, any caring or concerned person will speak up and encourage you to seek help. I would never let a loved one become so obese they could no longer stand, go to the bathroom, or became bed ridden. There are also those who have let their unhealthy habits worsen their diabetes, cause high blood pressure, or ruined their immune system. No one is trying to guilt you into health, those around you are simply stating the facts out of concern and love.

Proverbs 20:15 “There is gold and abundance of costly stones, but the lips of knowledge are a precious jewel.”

Instead of taking truth filled health advice as bitter poison; look at it instead as something precious.

QUESTION: How do you handle your emotions when people confront you about your habits? Do you “shoot the messenger” or do you give thought and prayer to their words?

ACTION: Ask God to reveal any sensitive areas in your life where you are resistant to help. Ask God to help you confront habits that need to be changed. Ask God to help you address those who give you wanted or unsolicited advice or information.


Commit to Saying No

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Matthew 5:37 “Simply let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.

James 5:12But above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation.

Saying “no” can be difficult, but when it comes to our health and well-being we need to become comfortable with this word. Becoming and staying healthy requires the ability to say no to things and to people.

Living a healthy lifestyle requires discipline and habits that support our life goals. If we don’t learn to confidently say no, we will continue to struggle in living our personal mission. Want to know what happens when we don’t say no to things and people who do not help us move towards our goals?

-You will eventually stop going to the gym or working out (your physical activity and sometimes intensity will decrease)

-You will begin eating the foods you know are not helping to fuel your body

-You will start putting the wellness of others before your own

-You will learn to commit to others but not to yourself

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There are Christians who will try to convince us that making our health a priority is selfish, but know that this is not the case. Our health is a priority in God’s eyes. He did not create our bodies and give us the gift of life so that we would intentionally destroy it with diabetes, obesity, laziness, high blood pressure, lack of adequate sleep, and all the other modern ailments that are affecting our country.

In order to be healthy we must learn to say “no”. It may hurt people’s feelings, but as long as we are saying no with kindness and good intentions, there is no need for us to feel wrong about choosing to say no. We can say no to foods that do not work well with our body. We have the right to say no to excessive exercise that cause us injuries, lowers our immune system, or doesn’t make us happy.

In 2015, let the word “no” fall from your lips with ease and sit easy within your heart. Eventually people will learn to respect your boundaries and with time you will respect yourself for saying no to anything that is not good for your body.

I say no


Resources for learning to say a confident and healthy “No”:

The Best Yes – Lysa TerKeurst

The Power of Habit – Charles Duhigg

Boundaries: When to Say Yes – When to Say No – Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend

How People Grow – Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend


Count Your Fitness Blessings

One Word 2014: Blessing 


We’re one month into the New Year and I’m excited to say I haven’t broken any resolutions yet, and that’s because I didn’t make any! This year the One Word option is something I welcome into my life. If you’d like to learn more about One Word, you can select the One Word 2014 tab near the top left of this blog and learn all about it and why the word Blessing is my guiding word for this entire year.

When it comes to health and fitness I can be quite the downer. I don’t recall ever waking up and thinking, “Yeah, I get to go to the gym and sweat on a machine!” or “Yeah, my aching legs and butt still hurt two days after my lower body workout!” I give thanks to God, but I certainly don’t get all excited about going to work out or HAVING TO lose weight. At times this healthy living journey feels like punishment. In my mind I tell myself I am being punished for having eaten way too many processed foods and not exercising enough.


Jpg Source: Fitsugar
Jpg Source: Fitsugar

This is what I told myself yesterday. Negative thinking has never helped anyone lose weight and keep it off. Negativity is not healthy. My word is Blessing, so… what blessings can I find, give thanks for and share with you as encouragement (for those who need that extra spiritual motivation). I give thanks to God that it didn’t take me long to count my weight loss and fitness blessings.

Health Blessings:

I’m alive: Seems silly, but I have to give thanks for this. I’m alive and it can’t get any better than this.

I don’t have terminal illness: Terminal illness isn’t necessarily related to poor health choices, and this is all the more reason to give thanks that death is not at my door. There are many people lying in hospital wishing they could trade places with me right now. I am fairly healthy and I have to give thanks for this.

I can afford fitness equipment and a subsidised gym membership: I don’t have an at home gym, but I have some basics like kettle bells, medicine balls, foam rollers, bands,lots of DVD’s, and yoga mats to name a few. I am fortunate to live in a city where the municipal government subsidises fitness memberships for those with low incomes. For those with limited funds to spare the YMCA also assists individuals and families with the cost of memberships. I am blessed because I have no excuse for not obtaining a gym membership.

I have a choice: Having a choice to decide if I want to commit to being healthy is a major blessing that I think we take for granted here in North America. We have so much food in this country that I get to make a choice between eating healthy or reaching for the not-so-good-for-you temptations. We’ve all seen those sad commercials with hungry people who need our less than dollar a day. I wondered, “If I have a choice, why is it so difficult to make the healthiest decisions”.


No, I’m not doing either. What I’m doing is counting my blessings and I’m sparing you all the details by telling you that I would have to write a lot more pages if I were to list for you all the blessings given to me by God as it relates to my health journey.


We’re a month into 2014 (and two days if you are celebrating Lunar New Year). I encourage you to take stock of the many health and fitness blessings that have been made available to you. I sometimes think that if we knew how blessed we were in our quest for health we would be more diligent in taking care of ourselves. We would no longer see our journey as tiring, boring, punishing, a duty, a hassle or any other negative emotion. Most importantly, we would bless the Lord for blessing us with whatever health we’ve been given.

So, go ahead, count your fitness blessings all week long! I’m excited for you to see the awesomeness of God as He inserts Himself into your goals for health and wellness.

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Jesus Never Laughed, Should You?

Did Jesus Have a Sense of Humour? 

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I once heard a fundamental preacher say, “Jesus never laughed, because there’s nothing funny about hell.” WHOA! I can’t say for certain that Jesus did indeed laugh only because I can’t find it anywhere in scripture. That being said, the bible also doesn’t say that he didn’t laugh. I simply can’t imagine that Jesus never laughed. There had to be times when Jesus was sitting around with his 12 best friends eating and having a great time joking around.

Life and salvation are no joke, they are both serious realities, but in the midst of the seriousness of all things eternal, we need to remember to have a good laugh. My rule is that I gotta have at least one good laugh per day. This might be too much for some people, but however often you choose to do so; you gotta laugh at some point.

 Jesus Noah

What the experts say…

“We change physiologically when we laugh. We stretch muscles throughout our face and body, our pulse and blood pressure go up, and we breathe faster, sending more oxygen to our tissues. … The effects of laughter and exercise are very similar”, says Wilson. “Combining laughter and movement, like waving your arms, is a great way to boost your heart rate. … And laughter appears to burn calories, too. Maciej Buchowski, a researcher from Vanderbilt University, conducted a small study in which he measured the amount of calories in laughing. It turned out that 10-15 minutes of laughter burned 50 calories.”

O.K., I have no memory of ever having laughed for 10-15 minutes straight, so I’m not going to recommend ditching a physical workout in exchange for a laughing session. But I will recommend that both your physical fitness and your spiritual fitness be infused with some laughter and humour. Working out has some funny moments; so the next time you fall flat on your face while running, get up, dust yourself off and have a good laugh about it. The same thing goes for our faith. Being a believer doesn’t have to be confined to sad, tear filled and dreary feelings. We can laugh at ourselves; life is hilarious sometimes.

 Adam and Eve joke


Ask yourself when was the last time you had a good hearty belly laugh; the kind that leaves you in tears. If that’s too extreme for you, think back to the last time you laughed. Hopefully it doesn’t take more than a minute to remember.

If you are in need of a few more laughs and less tears and stress, here are a few suggestions:

-Go online and find some comedies that you like. Watch one or two and don’t be afraid to laugh out loud, even if you are alone.

-Head to a comedy club with your spouse, family or some friends.

-Find a funny novel to read

-Signup for an account with Netflix or something similar and you’ll always have comedies at your convenience