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How Embarrassing! Lord Forgive me!

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Embarrassment: 1.  a) to cause to experience a state of self-conscious distress

Laughter: 1. a) to show emotion (as mirth, joy, or scorn) with a chuckle or explosive vocal sound; b) to find amusement or pleasure in something; c) to become amused; 2. to be of a kind that inspires joy

(Source: Merriam-Webster dictionary)

As person with an anxiety disorder I used to be embarrassed by the slighted mishap, or at least perceived mishap. I spent my entire 20’s being afraid of embarrassing myself and in many attempts to avoid being noticed I unintentionally drew attention to myself. Social anxiety uses a lot of energy and by the time I had reached my mid 30’s I realized that I didn’t have as much energy to waste on dreading social situations as I did in my 20’s. Eventually I decided to take that precious energy and use it towards laughter. I laugh every single day. There isn’t a day that goes by where I don’t find something to smile at or laugh at.

I don’t laugh at other people; that is junior high behaviour and I’m not interested in regressing into immaturity. I laugh about a lot of things that at one point in my life would have left me feeling devastated, embarrassed, and even ashamed. Now that I’ve discovered the power of  laughing at myself I’ve experienced a major decrease in anxiety. Sometimes my humour is self-depreciating, but it is not the harmful type despite what some critics might say about this style of humour.

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Sometimes incidents are less embarrassing than you imagine them to be. Think about Junior High and High School, I’m sure you had a few embarrassing moments, but did you die? No, you didn’t. You’ve probably forgotten most of the times you had felt embarrassed during your school days; and it will be the same in adulthood. Ten, twenty years from now you won’t remember most of the times you felt embarrassed in the past four months.

The interesting thing about embarrassment is that you only experience this feeling if others are involved. I hadn’t thought about this until recently but, people don’t get embarrassed about something when no one other than themselves are around. Sometimes embarrassment results from placing too much value on what other’s think about you or what you think others are thinking about you. The less importance you place on what other’s think about you, the less incidences of embarrassment you’ll experience.

I realized that sometimes embarrassment can be rooted in pride. Pride has a few different definitions:

  1. a) a feeling that you respect yourself and deserve to be respected by other people; b) a feeling that you are more important or better than other people; c) a feeling of happiness that you get when you or someone you know does something good, difficult, etc. (Source: Merriam-Webster Dictionary)

Be careful not to allow a spirit that is not in line with the fruit of the spirit take root in you (Ephesians 4:26-27). No matter how embarrassing an event may be, you can overcome it. Use whatever method works for you: prayer, laughter, mindfulness, debriefing, talking about your feelings with someone close to you, etc.

The embarrassment comes from feeling “lesser than” others. Embarrassment can also lead to resentment, “Why did this happen to me and not _________?” It can also lead to spitefulness; that feeling of ill will towards others. When the feeling of embarrassment goes unchecked, emotions and actions that are not in line with how God wants us to behave can develop over time.

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QUESTIONS:

How do you typically handle moments of embarrassment? Do you respond to embarrassment with a godly response? When are you most embarrassed?

ACTIONS:

In prayer ask God to reveal to you any moments of embarrassment you’ve been holding on to emotionally. Ask God to help you overcome any unhealthy emotions related to that experience.

Jesus Never Laughed, Should You?

Did Jesus Have a Sense of Humour? 

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I once heard a fundamental preacher say, “Jesus never laughed, because there’s nothing funny about hell.” WHOA! I can’t say for certain that Jesus did indeed laugh only because I can’t find it anywhere in scripture. That being said, the bible also doesn’t say that he didn’t laugh. I simply can’t imagine that Jesus never laughed. There had to be times when Jesus was sitting around with his 12 best friends eating and having a great time joking around.

Life and salvation are no joke, they are both serious realities, but in the midst of the seriousness of all things eternal, we need to remember to have a good laugh. My rule is that I gotta have at least one good laugh per day. This might be too much for some people, but however often you choose to do so; you gotta laugh at some point.

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What the experts say…

“We change physiologically when we laugh. We stretch muscles throughout our face and body, our pulse and blood pressure go up, and we breathe faster, sending more oxygen to our tissues. … The effects of laughter and exercise are very similar”, says Wilson. “Combining laughter and movement, like waving your arms, is a great way to boost your heart rate. … And laughter appears to burn calories, too. Maciej Buchowski, a researcher from Vanderbilt University, conducted a small study in which he measured the amount of calories in laughing. It turned out that 10-15 minutes of laughter burned 50 calories.”

O.K., I have no memory of ever having laughed for 10-15 minutes straight, so I’m not going to recommend ditching a physical workout in exchange for a laughing session. But I will recommend that both your physical fitness and your spiritual fitness be infused with some laughter and humour. Working out has some funny moments; so the next time you fall flat on your face while running, get up, dust yourself off and have a good laugh about it. The same thing goes for our faith. Being a believer doesn’t have to be confined to sad, tear filled and dreary feelings. We can laugh at ourselves; life is hilarious sometimes.

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Application:

Ask yourself when was the last time you had a good hearty belly laugh; the kind that leaves you in tears. If that’s too extreme for you, think back to the last time you laughed. Hopefully it doesn’t take more than a minute to remember.

If you are in need of a few more laughs and less tears and stress, here are a few suggestions:

-Go online and find some comedies that you like. Watch one or two and don’t be afraid to laugh out loud, even if you are alone.

-Head to a comedy club with your spouse, family or some friends.

-Find a funny novel to read

-Signup for an account with Netflix or something similar and you’ll always have comedies at your convenience